Using, as a basis, the tool developed for clients for over 20 years in the author's clinic, THE THIRD CIRCLE PROTOCOL gives the understanding and offers the process to live a life of satisfying, loving and effective relationships without guilt or angst. It shows how to feel comfortable and flourish in the relationship with self and others. THE THIRD CIRCLE PROTOCOL teaches the reader how to understand the often unspoken or unrecognised contracts we have with each other. And how to write new ones – when the current one isn't working. These contracts start with the relationship with yourself, your lover, your kids, your sister or your parents. The central core of your life is affirming interactive relationships, in your private life as well as at work. The exercises are simple, pragmatic and profound. THE THIRD CIRCLE PROTOCOL is the first book of its kind to focus on your relationship with self as well as others. It brings a huge AHA! to the whole conundrum of “Why do I always choose losers?” or... "How come I can't find a boss to respect me?” or “Why can't I get along with my sister-in-law?' This is a new paradigm for working in and with relationships that enables the reader to create better loving and working relationships at all levels, first with themselves and then with others. This book is about the unwritten contract we have each time we enter into a relationship – which is all the time - and how to make sure we spend at least as much time deciding what we want in this relationship as we do when choosing a flavour of ice cream or a pair of shoes!